Online Relationship Management Sites… The New Frontier…?
“Love is a Verb… It Requires Action”
With the aforementioned quote ringing true, it surprises me that one of these newly invented “relationship management sites” has decided to use it as its slogan. This afternoon, I came across an article that discussed the birth of several new sites, deemed to be the next “Facebook for couples”, to which “busy couples sign up and use the space to get to know each other better and negotiate the common pitfalls of love”…. *blank stare*… you have GOT to be joking me.
If the facts in this study are true, and the average couple only spends less than fifteen minutes a day actually talking to each other, then we, my friends, have a huuuuge problem. What kind of relationships are we getting involved in? Where a majority of our interaction is done over text, twitter, facebook, email…and now a relationship management site? I shouldn’t have to have an online forum with a “mood meter” to warn my man that I had a bad day… not to mention that the fact that these sites are going to be activating quizzes and games to allow couples to “ask questions they’d be too shy to ask face-to-face” completely takes away from the whole purpose of having a relationship.
I don’t know about y’all, but for me, the best part of a relationship is that initial “getting-to-know-you” stage. Who doesn’t like spending time face-to-face and over the phone with a new prospect? Telling your story and revealing some of your quirks can be a lot of fun, not to mention, the glue that holds y’all together as your relationship further develops. The thought of me not speaking to my potential boo, let alone my boyfriend, in favor of some mood and status updates on yet another social networking site, irks the hell out of me. More power to the people who hope the creation of these sites will make them rich… after all, I am sure a lot of lazy ass people will take advantage of this way to “make dating easier”… But how “easy” do you want this shit to be before it becomes a complete waste of time!?
It boggles my mind to think that some people can’t even muster up the courage to discuss their feelings and relationship expectations with their partner. If you can’t be open with them, how can you even be involved with this person in the first place. Relationships should be effortless when it comes to things like this. I don’t understand how posting something in an online forum for your partner will possibly remove any awkwardness… what happens when you see them again in person and are forced to discuss your post? Then what? “Oh, that was meant to be responded to online…” -__-
To me, sites like this only mean two things… another profile/status to update and yet another password to remember. For those of you who would even consider this as a means of bettering your relationship, you’re already doomed. Stop using technology as a means for expressing your love and feelings for someone. Nothing can replace face-to-face interaction, and it’s bad enough that we have to utilize texts when one-on-one time isn’t possible. But, don’t do yourself a disservice; love is a verb… it requires action… offline.
Read the full article here via AskMen.com