Men: What Do Women Consider “Good Sex”? 10 Tips For YOU…

Posted Feb 13, 2012 by Freshhh in All Articles

Men: Let’s face it… when it comes to sex… YOU’VE GOT TO DO BETTER! Sure you get off (meaning you enjoyed yourself at least somewhat).. but what about us? I find that half the time men don’t know what they are doing and the other half of the time they go in with a “Imma make you cum” philosophy which eventually goes by the wayside as soon as they get their dick wet…. With that being said, I want to share with you an article I came across, entitled “What Do Women Consider Good Sex?”. The article is essentially 10 tips to increase her enjoyment (and subsequently her rating of your sex)…check out the excerpts below and for more details on each tip, check out the full article:

  1. Think Like A “Knob”, Not A “Switch.”:  “Men are like light switches — just flip them on, and they’re ready to go. Women are like knobs — you can turn them up and down.” Or as Dr. Emily Nagoski writes in the Good in Bed Guide to Female Orgasms, “Men are like driving standard transmission — if you move through the gears in the right order, you will get where you want to go. Women are like baking a soufflé — the outcome depends on the ingredients and the chef, sure, but it  also depends on the reliability of the oven, the altitude, the humidity of the day… more variables, more variability.” In short, think of foreplay as a 24-hour experience that happens both in and out of the bedroom. Sex is all about context. And while it may take very little to rev your engine, remember that she probably needs to simmer.
  2. When You’re Getting It On, Make Sure She’s Completely Relaxed & Comfortable: Researchers in the Netherlands have found that the key to getting a woman turned on and to the heights of orgasmic bliss is a deep sense of relaxation and a lack of anxiety. Brain scans showed that the parts of women’s brains responsible for processing fear, anxiety and emotion slowed down the more aroused they became, producing a trancelike state at orgasm
  3. Take The Time To Figure Out What Works: Every woman is different, and most women don’t even orgasm the first couple of times they’re with a guy. A woman has to feel comfortable, and a guy has to figure out what makes her tick sexually.  Figure out a sex script that works, and stick to it. Sure, familiarity can breed boredom, but it can also yield consistent orgasms.
  4. Once You Know What Works, Wrap It In Something Fresh—Fantasy: A healthy fantasy life is one of the keys to a great sex life — even when your partner might not always play the leading role. Most people find that they are most sexually satisfied when they are intimate with one person with whom they feel completely comfortable. Along with this intimacy comes the freedom to let go and explore, including fantasizing about other people, places and situations.
  5. Play To Your Strengths: . Develop “sex scripts” — paths to pleasure — that play to your strengths. And be willing to communicate. As Dr. Madeleine Castellanos writes in her guide to Male Sexual Issues, “Wouldn’t it be great if penises could talk — honestly and clearly — about their feelings, especially when it comes to issues in the bedroom?” Most women don’t know how to “speak penis,” so give them a clue
  6. Get Cliterate: Stop thinking of the clitoris as a little bump, and start thinking of it as a complex network, a pleasure dome, the Xanadu at the heart of female sexuality. The clitoris has more than 8,000 nerve fibers — more than any other part of the human body — and interacts with another 15,000 nerve fibers that service the entire pelvic area
  7. The Tongue Is Mightier Than The Sword: Once found, a skilled cunnilinguist rarely goes unappreciated. Not sure exactly how? Just press a flat, still tongue against her vulva, and let her do the work. It’s the cunnilingus equivalent of letting her get on top. Unfortunately many men do not learn the true principles of cunnilingus or how to pleasure a woman at the outset, and so, even with the best intentions, their form is without substance.
  8. Show Some Sexual Courtesy- “She Comes First”: Unlike men, women don’t reach a point of “orgasmic inevitability” — the moment when, even without further physical stimulation, a guy ventures past the point of no return. In fact, men and women are so different in this respect that many women claim to “lose” an orgasm just as they’re on the verge of having one, which can be particularly frustrating, especially if it occurs regularly. Guys need to pay attention to the journey through female arousal, particularly those final moments of potential orgasmic ecstasy. Recognize the visible signs of female arousal, mainly the muscular tension that develops throughout her body and that will ultimately demand release. Look especially for tension in the hands and feet and throughout her pelvic area.
  9. Grab A Vibrator Off The Shelf: Most women orgasm easiest when using a vibrator. “The mechanical vibration provided by toys is more intense than anything a hand, phallus, tongue, fresh produce, or other organic stimulus can provide,” she writes. “More stimulation [leads to] more arousal [leads to] easier/faster orgasm.” Women generally take longer to orgasm than men, and a lot of men find it hard to last long enough during sex. A vibrator helps you and your partner get at least halfway home, if not take you all the way.
  10. Finally, Don’t Forget To Cuddle: To paraphrase the pioneering sexologist Theodore van de Velde, it’s in the moments after orgasm that a man proves whether or not he’s an “erotically civilized” adult.
Of course, I agree with ALL of these, but I want men to make sure they pay special attention to 3, 4, 7, 8, & 10 –> those are my personal top 5… now read them again, and do better!!!


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    Reblogged this on SpeakGossip and commented:
    Truly an amazing read for all you ladies and men as well!

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