G.A.M.E.S: Games Always Mean Extra Stress
GAME \ˈgām\ noun: A competitive activity played by two or more persons according to a set of rules, usually for their own amusement or for that of spectators, decided by skill, strength, or luck
Games, as fun and exhilarating as they can be, always have a winner and a loser. While our goal is to always be the winner, often times when we play games in our relationships, we end up getting played and left as the loser. At that point, we usually realize that being honest and forward, avoiding the game, may have been the best plan of attack to get what we wanted.
Unfortunately, unlike the aforementioned definition suggests, the games we play in relationships have zero rules and are hardly amusing. I find that every time my girlfriends and I discuss prospective dating situations, we are always griping about the games these fools are out here trying to play with us… ain’t no one got time for that. Games like waiting at length to text back, liking photos but never having the balls to approach someone (let alone actually follow them), keeping your true feelings bottled up, etc. It seems like nowadays, people are playing games in order to cover up their insecurity or inability to come correct, when they should just be working on bettering those shortcomings. The reality is that if you like someone, go for it. No one is saying that every “relationship” you make an attempt at has to be a dating success, but instead of playing games, you need to be confident in who you are and go after what you want, without being afraid of rejection… you never know how it might turn out.
At the end of the day, games are misleading and a huge waste of time. Why beat around the bush if going after this person is truly what you want? By playing games, you’re hiding your true colors from the start and when the other person gets sick of playing the game and moves on, you realize you missed out on a good thing and never gave them the chance to get to know the real you. I have found that the past couple of relationship attempts I made ended up just like that… there is all of this interest and chemistry but then the man hasn’t been able to take the extra step and fully be about it.
Now, I’m not saying that I expect to be wifed up overnight, but what I am saying is that if you like me, LIKE ME, and if you don’t, then DON’T. Don’t throw the mixed signals out there and pretend you are interested one day then do a 180 the next; you have to be consistent in your efforts if you really want any chance at someone taking you seriously and things working out. All the back and forth, confusion, and games become mentally draining and too exhausting to keep up with after awhile. Not to mention, all of this gives you a bad reputation… no one wants to be with someone who is too immature to be up front and clearly afraid of even the slightest inkling of commitment… I’m just saying…
Ask Men: Dating Games
Huffington Post: The Rules Redux: 4 Mind Games Men Play
Girls Chase: How to Stop Playing Games in Your Relationship