“Come Over & Chill”…
Today, I read a very interesting, albeit long, blog post that I didn’t even know was written by a man until I got to the end where he identified himself as such. I was floored at how accurate he described a situation many women fall into…the infamous “come over & chill” spiel. He uses an example that compares the actions of a classy lady versus a savvy hoe…and you know how it goes… #HoesBeWinning.
It was a long blog post, but I encourage you to read it anyway because the underlying humor is right up my alley AND he makes some pretty dead-on points too. If you’re really that lazy, check out some excerpts (link to the full article below):
“The outrage not only speaks to the lack of value modern day men place on females, but it also speaks on the fact that a lot of women are out here spoiling men with cheap pussy. I’m not talking about placing a monetary value on your vagina, but there should be an investment on his part to prove that he is serious about you. Time and energy are the biggest investment a man can make to show that it’s real…If a man values a woman, he respects her, and only from that respect can a real relationship grow.”
“…but 9 out of 10 times, it’s already a wrap because once a guy knows you’re a “Come Over And Chill” girl he’s going to have you coming over all the time until he smashes…“
“However keep one thing in the back of your mind when thinking about Hoes—Value. A Hoe knows her value, it may be a ratchet ass Juicy Couture bag or it may be a condo on South Beach, either way she got something. A real lady of class has to know her worth too, not the worth of her pussy, but the worth of her heart. It all starts with courting and how a man treats you on that first date…”
“Why the fuck are you settling for date night at a bum nigga’s crib that consists of hard dick, reheated chipotle, and a bootleg Kevin Hart DVD? It blows my mind how women get caught up with a user, let him put all kinds of mileage on her pussy, and never see the inside of his car during the daytime. Time and Energy! He’s investing time to talk a good game and get you open enough to come over, but where’s the energy?”
“Remember you’re a lady not a Hoe, so it’s not about getting shit out of him except time and energy. He doesn’t have to drop a lot of money on the date to show you he values you, it’s the effort he’s putting in, not the star rating on the restaurant that’s most important. Furthermore, don’t accept his excuses; if he wants a woman of your stature then he’ll sacrifice time to make it happen. Stop letting these ordinary ass niggas tell you how busy they are…”