40 Days, 40 Habits You Should Break; Day #8: Oversharing Personal Information
Bad Habit #8: Oversharing Personal Information
When getting to know people, it is a great idea to share stories about your life in hopes of building a connection that people can relate to. However, I have noticed that a lot of people tend to share more information than needed with people they barely even know. I can’t tell you how many times I have met someone and within an hour or so of knowing them, I know all of their personal business… intimate details about their baby daddy, the sister of theirs that has a cocaine habit, the abortion she got when she was 17, etc. Now, I know I am easy to talk to and people feel comfortable sharing things with me or asking for advice, but sometimes you need to be careful what you share and at what rate. Not saying that I judge based on things you tell me, because I usually don’t, but not everyone is like me; people are judging you… all the time. You have to be cognizant of what you’re telling people, especially those who you just met. Fresh relationships equate to minimal loyalty. Telling someone something very personal about yourself may come back to haunt you; you don’t know who is indirectly hearing your story through the big mouth of the person you just told. You also need to monitor what kind of information you share while intoxicated. Many of the out-of-this-world tidbits I have heard from people were told to me while they were extremely inebriated, and no judgment, but I bet half of them hadn’t remembered what they told me, or anyone else, the next day (and I surely will remember)… bad habit to get into! Essentially, I just want you all to be careful; don’t go sharing intimate details about your life to people you haven’t fully gotten to know, especially when they aren’t sharing information with you to the same extent.. Your story is what is unique about you, and not everyone deserves to hear all of the intricate details. You should take the time to be aware of who’s really listening; some people are nosey and only pretending to “get to know you” for their own ulterior motives. Be careful! You don’t need anyone using details about your life against you in the future.
In case you missed it… Bad Habit #7