40 Days, 40 Habits You Should Break; Day #36: Chasing Those Who Don’t Want To Be Caught
Bad Habit #36: Chasing After Those Who Don’t Want To Be Caught
When beginning a new relationship, it’s no secret that half of our attraction to someone comes from the thrill of the chase. Experiencing someone who is playing “hard-to-get” can be exciting, wondering what the outcome might be if you two were to get together. Problems arise as the person doing the chasing increasingly exposes him or herself to this person who seems “out of reach” and continues to maintain a certain degree of mystery and unfamiliarity. The mistake many men and women make during the chase is wasting ample amounts of time trying to change no into yes and convince the other person to give them a chance. While persistence is normally a characteristic we value in people, we have to be conscious of the fact that there should be a expiration date on the chasing. Despite everyone’s love of being chased, they will eventually give in and give you the time of day if they do indeed like you. I find as though some people can’t take a hint and end up chasing someone for periods beyond what should be considered realistic. If you have been putting in effort and doing all that you can to gauge someone’s interest and they are still not interested, then the odds are probably not in your favor. You have to throw in the towel at some point and admit that you’ve probably been chasing after someone who doesn’t want to be caught, either by you or in general. Stop wasting your time… it wasn’t meant to be, and every minute you waste trying to convince this person of how great your are could be spent on someone more deserving and appreciative of your attention. You should focus less on the chase, and more on yourself. By doing your own thing, you will attract the right person for you. By not exhausting your efforts or forcing yourself upon them, you will find that when these people do come into your life, they tend to be genuine and stick around a lot longer than those you chased.
In case you missed it… Bad Habit #35: Always Seeking Approval