40 Days, 40 Habits You Should Break; Day #31: The Comparison Game
Bad Habit #31: The Comparison Game
It is not a hidden secret that we all take part in the comparison game, some of us more than others. Although comparing ourselves to others is a natural tendency, it can wind up being either neutral or extremely dysfunctional. Comparing yourself to others by evaluating similarities and differences can be productive and inspiring for you. However, using comparisons to judge yourself as better or less than others can stir up envy and jealousy; these traits could not exist without comparisons.
Since it is more common to feel inferior to those with “more” than to feel grateful compared to those with “less”, the comparison game tends to steal your joy, halt your progress, and cause you to feel more insecurity than you currently do. It will ruin you. It is important to acknowledge another person’s successes without letting it throw you off course. It is also important to not bring this trait into your relationships. Comparing your current partner to your ex is unfair to them and can lead to unrealistic expectations that will probably cause you heartache in the long run. Recognize the positive character traits your new partner has and accept them for who they are and not for how they match up against the person they replaced.
The only “healthy” comparison you can make is one between your past and present self. Keeping the comparison within instead of succumbing to the temptation to compare yourself to others will help you gauge your own personal progress and help to motivate you to achieve new heights. We are forever changing, attempting to become better people. Who you are today is a result of the decisions you made yesterday, and those decisions should be based on your own life goals and situation, not on a comparison you have done to someone else.
In case you missed it… Bad Habit #30: Being Melodramatic