40 Days, 40 Habits You Should Break; Day #28: Spying on Your Partner
Bad Habit #28: Spying on Your Partner
Imma tell you what I don’t like. People who are in relationships and are constantly worried about the wrong things… namely their partner’s activity on various social media outlets, email, cell phone, etc. There are too many people out there who are persistent in trying to figure out passwords, hack into their partner’s email, check their twitter mentions, and sift through their “likes” on Instagram. Give me a fucking break. Like you don’t have better things to do with your spare time. The problem with this is that when you go looking for something, the odds of you finding it will most likely increase… who wants to live in a paranoid state?! You may not realize it, but you’re driving your partner away, not to mention it’s clear that you don’t trust them, or… you’re just insecure (which seems to be the highlight of most of these bad habits that need breaking). That insecurity will usually lead you to feel pretty stupid when you go through your partner’s phone and don’t find anything juicy like you though you would. Personally, when I am in a relationship, I fall back from social media a little bit and focus on the relationship itself. What good does it do me to be all over my man’s twitter and Instagram wondering who the random bitches are that are retweeting and liking his posts? If he’s with me, he’s with me, so why stress myself out trying to keep up with his damn timeline? I ain’t got time for that. Not to mention that every time you see someone who looks like they are interacting with your partner regularly or that may potentially be better looking than you, you end up bringing that drama into your relationship via an attitude problem. Drama leads to problems and problems lead to arguments, which tend to lead to break-ups. I would suggest taking a chill pill, exiting the Instagram “following” tab, and spending quality time with your partner without worrying about what might be going on in the twittersphere because once they dump you, you’ll have to spend all your time bitterly spying on them via social media anyway since you will no longer have actual contact with them. Get it together!
In case you missed it… Bad Habit #27: Microwave Relationships