40 Days, 40 Habits You Should Break; Day #26: Too Much Focus On The Future
Bad Habit #26: Too Much Focus On The Future
Everyday I sign onto Facebook and see that someone else is getting engaged, married, or having a child. While I am happy for them, I surely don’t envy them. However, I do see others putting pressure on themselves to follow this trend because they think they are “behind” in life and have to compete with those who are “happy”. Subsequently, their relationship and life decisions all revolve around finding “the one” and starting the family they feel they should of started years ago. The problem with this is that they become too enveloped in worrying about the future, since they feel left out, that they fail to worry about what might be the right choice for them to make relative to the current time. Everyone moves at their own pace, and just because Joe Schmo is getting married at 27, doesn’t mean that you have to feel guilty for not even having a girlfriend at the same age. When we do these life comparisons and put pressure on ourselves, we are doing ourselves a huge disservice. Stop worrying about the future; enjoy your life in the present day! Everything will happen to you when and if it is supposed to happen, and just because we see a majority of people our age making certain decisions, doesn’t mean those are the same kinds of decisions we need to be making right now. Now, I’m not saying that we shouldn’t completely tune out the future, but we have to allow it to happen naturally. So many people are pressed to save all of their money for their future endeavors, that they miss out on great experiences or opportunities now because their future is the primary focus. Yea, it’s great to have savings. Sure, being able to put a down payment on a home by the time you’re 30 would be a great feeling. But the fact is, you have to enjoy your life while you can. These are some of the most crucial times for you to truly live your life to the fullest, and you have to take advantage of that because before you know it, the future will be here and you will wish you could go back in time and do things differently.
In case you missed it… Bad Habit #25: Staying in Stifling Relationships