40 Days, 40 Habits You Should Break; Day #17: Not Asking For Help
Bad Habit #17: Not Asking For Help
Sorry to burst your bubble but… you’re not perfect. Obviously. And that’s ok because no one is. The problem is that most people get into the habit of not seeking help for their imperfections, which usually just exacerbates them in the long run. Why don’t people ask for help more often? Well, most people feel as though asking for or accepting help is a sign of weakness, but asking for help is actually a sign that you recognize you have a problem or inefficiency in something and are seeking to alter that. Other common reasons we shy away from asking for help include: feeling guilty, not wanting to be a pest, not having anyone to ask, and not wanting to “use a favor” now that you might need later. All of those are valid reasons to not seek assistance, but the reality is you know plenty of qualified people you can ask, they all want to feel some sense of significance, and you’re really not using up a favor; ask for help, be thankful, offer to help them later… it’s a mutually beneficial system. Some people just have too much pride; we have that fear of failure, fear of letting others see our vulnerability, fear of not feeling good enough, or of letting others “in” (lack of trust). We have to recognize we have a need, overcome our ego issues, and just ask for help. You will find that people will be more willing to help than you think… and a lot of times they will help you out way more than you needed…. #winning.
By the way… what’s the worst that can happen? They say no? They are unable to help? Well… you’re no worse off than you are now, and at least you took a shot at it.
In case you missed it… Bad Habit #16: Complaining