40 Days, 40 Habits You Should Break; Day #13: Exaggerating
Bad Habit #13: Exaggerating
Today’s bad habit touches on something I believe everyone does, whether they are conscious of it or not (and if you think before you speak, you should always be conscious of it); exaggerating. Exaggeration can come in many magnitudes; in fact, most people, when they exaggerate, do so by only the smallest amount, which kind of almost defeats the purpose of exaggerating in the first place. We exaggerate to emphasize our idea and make it sound more interesting and entertaining, in turn, making ourselves appear in that way as well. I think the problem really arises when we begin to exaggerate accomplishments or facts about ourselves; stop sicing yourself. When you exaggerate (essentially, lie) to people about yourself, you don’t know if it will eventually come back to haunt you; you set yourself up to have to be accountable for these things later. It’s best to just be as honest and accurate as you can be that way there is no confusion at a later date. It is also a bad habit to get into for the sheer fact that most times we lie we are trying to compete with others’ stories. Constantly trying to one-up other people, especially when it’s based on lies, is really a character flaw that will hinder a lot of your relationships. If people know you have a habit of amping your own stories and qualities, they will eventually stop believing you no matter what you say or how true it is. The good news is, self-serving exaggeration is usually hard to detect; if people don’t know you well, they probably won’t know you’re lying. However, you always run the risk of someone repeating your story to someone who just might know the truth… and then what? How does that make you look? Well. That’s easy. It makes you look pretty fucking pathetic and desperate for attention.
Some good reads:
New York Times: I’m Not Lying, I’m Telling a Future Truth. No, Really.
In case you missed it… Bad Habit #12: Harboring Your Feelings