40 Days, 40 Habits You Should Break; Day #12: Harboring Your Feelings
Bad Habit #12: Harboring Your Feelings
For as much as people talk these days, I find it funny that not many express their true feelings very often. Harboring your feelings inside can be very dangerous it can cause you to explode. We have to be conscious of our feelings about certain things and people and, when relevant, we have to have the will power to speak what we feel. Mainly I find this habit to be detrimental in relationships (both with friends and romantic interests) for the sheer fact that when we have an issue with someone, nine times out of ten we don’t say anything about it and let the anger or concern fester inside. We break ourselves down by replaying the same scenarios over and over again in out heads, hoping that we will come to some type of conclusion as to why things happened the way they did and why they are the way they are; this isn’t solving anything. You have to remember one important thing: no one can read your mind. If you have something on your chest, say it. Waiting around for the person you have an issue with to hopefully bring it up is only going to lead to further divides and resentment within the relationship. Keep it a hundred with the people in your life; having everything out on the table will lead to some constructive dialogue and faster conflict resolution. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
In case you missed it… Bad Habit #11: Forgetting Your Manners